CPT Joshua Gorczyca, U.S. Army (2017-Present)

In my years of service as an U.S. Army chaplain, rooted in a childhood spent among the values and rhythms of a Green Beret family, I learned the power of presence. My father, a retired Special Forces officer, demonstrated the art of being fully engaged wherever he was, whether in the thick of an overseas mission or at our kitchen table. That steady, attentive presence shaped me deeply, and it’s a habit I strive to keep alive in my own ministerial calling within our pluralistic organization.

One of the most essential habits I’ve carried forward from my military journey is the commitment to check in. Whether it’s a quick conversation with a Soldier I run into at the Motor Pool or a late-night phone call to a spouse who’s having a rough time while their Soldier is away, these check-ins are my way of staying connected to the hearts and minds of our Army Family. I make it a habit to notice when someone’s spirit feels heavy or when they seem distracted. It’s a simple act, but I know from experience how much it can mean for someone to feel seen and valued in their moment of struggle.

The habit of checking in isn’t just about identifying issues, though it is about building a culture of trust. My father once told me, “If you’re not with your people in the morning calm, don’t expect them to lean on you when the storms arrive.” So, I make it my mission to be there in all seasons. Whether it’s a Soldier on their first deployment or a spouse managing the home front, I want them to know they’re not facing life’s challenges alone.

Another habit I’ve held onto is intentional listening. In the military, we’re trained to listen for details, to tune into the unspoken messages, to notice the cues that something might be amiss. I can’t count the times when listening closely has opened up a conversation that brought a Soldier or Family Member a bit closer to peace or perspective. Listening is a gift we can give each other, especially in an environment where stoicism is often valued over vulnerability.

Finally, one habit I’ve held close is finding strength in gratitude. In the chaos of military life, I’ve learned the importance of pausing to be thankful for the small moments, whether it’s a successful mission, the support of a colleague, or a quiet evening with my family. I encourage Soldiers to build gratitude into their own lives because it becomes a sturdy Chock Block that keeps us firmly planted in what’s meaningful, even in times of stress and sacrifice.

The U.S. Army has taught me many things, but the habit of presence, of checking in, of listening and expressing gratitude, are practices I try to carry beyond the uniform. These habits remind me that our greatest mission isn’t just the duty we perform but the people we serve. In each of them, I see the face of the Army Family I love, and it’s their stories, challenges, and victories that keep me committed to this calling every single day. “Live the Call Fiercely!”

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